Day Time Communities
A lot of what I write is observations, small things that I suddenly see that perhaps I hadn’t seen before. When I started my new life as a stay at home parent I observed the different community that exists and that I am now a part of, the daytime community.
I used to work in the city, I was one of the ‘crisp shirts’ who queued in silence for the tram, took my seat and like every other commuter I plugged in my electronic device of choice and shut myself off from everyone else. Eye contact was brief and generally unwanted. As the tram reaches its climax the same people that you share that ritual with every working day would file off without a word. Nine hours later the same practice took place in reverse, the silence was consistent.
The stay at home community is different. I used to see them as I looked out of the tram window, a little enviously in truth, now they are my community and friends.
The little old lady who I would see walking her yapping dogs and stopping to chat to anyone who would listen, now I listen as she delves into her collection of stories about wartime and boyfriends gone by.
The effervescent Greek lady in the green grocers who comes charging down the street with a peeled carrot to quench Max’s unquenchable appetite for carrots.
The gentleman/gentle man who always ruffled Max’s hair at the park on weekends is now the gentleman who ruffles Max’s hair and shares a coffee or two and some adult conversation with Max’s Dad every morning.
The clutch of Mums (what is the collective noun for Mums?) pushing their prams from park to park as if possessed, stopping to chat and ask how I’m doing. These women provide the light relief and distraction from Max whilst their children provide Max with the light relief and distraction from me.
I love feeling a part of this community. The pace is slower, the smiles are genuine, the talk is instinctive and there is a more obvious happiness to this daytime community.
You hear a lot of talk about community in blogging circles. I’ve always wanted this blog to be somewhere that people are comfortable to be themselves, to feel valued, to smile and to be a little bit like the day time community I describe above. I thank you for being a part of it.
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