Lets Be Friends?
Do you ever catch yourself doing something you’d rather you didn’t? Enjoying an episode of Geordie Shore? Overusing emoticons? Working an involuntary pout in the mirror? Relying too heavily on words like “cool” and “awesome”? Singing and dancing your way down the aisles to a supermarket jingle?
These holidays I caught myself doing something that I have since vowed to banish, none of the above, they’re all staying. I didn’t realise how much I was doing it until my partner in time pointed it out.
- “Look Max there’s a little boy, you share the same gender, you should probably go and play with him”
- “Hey Max did you see that little girl, you are roughly the same age, you guys would totally be great together”
- “Wow Max that boy has a train on his t-shirt, you two are like kindred spirits, totes bffl’s”
Off he trots each time with an optimistic smile, a sense of anticipation and usually a toy offering to cement the deal. I’m waiting in the wings, hiding behind a bush, looking on with everything crossed, I can lip read his words – “can I play with you” or “can I be your friend?”. The outcome is usually the same; words are exchanged, gestures are made and Max spins on his heels and walks back wearing a look of dejection. “It’s okay Max, we’ll get the next one”.
“Why do you do that? How would you like it if your Dad picked your friends?” I would hate it if my Dad found my friends, it would be disastrous. “Look Matt that man over there looks as though he may have been born in the same decade as you and he is wearing the same brand of shoe as you. Now off you go and introduce yourself to him and ask if you can play together, don’t forget to use your happy face”.
He’s at an age now where he wants to be sociable and make friends, Max not my Dad, but he also takes the knock backs a little harder than he used to. In hindsight I don’t think that me pre-empting these knockbacks in the hope that one or two might ‘work out’ does him any good. In future I’ll let things happen organically and I won’t hide in the bushes anymore either because that’s a terrible look too.
What do you think?